Volume 15, Issue 27 April 23, 2014
From The Principal
Each year, school psychologist, Robyn Hubbard, hosts parent nights throughout the district to discuss parenting skills using information from the book, Parenting with Love and Logic©. So many parents confuse love with protection. Parenting with love and logic means allowing your kids to make choices… and sometimes mistakes. The authors of this book believe that we must teach our children HOW to think, and not just WHAT to think.
In a newsletter, Author, Jim Fay writes:
Are you a service provider instead of a parent? If so, your children are your consumers, not part of the family team. Many homes operate this way. While parents work hard to provide the best, their ungrateful children expect more and more, while making little effort to help. These children live like honored guests in the home. This parenting style robs kids of the basic human need for being an important member of a group. It breeds hostile dependency not loving appreciation.
Make a list of all the jobs it takes to keep your family going… Have your children add jobs they like you to do for them…..Once the list is finished, divide up the jobs and make everyone in the family part of the team for family survival.
I’ve listed some of the rules to Love and Logic below:
1. Adults set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture or threats.
2. When a child causes a problem, the adult hands it back in loving ways.
• The adult holds the child accountable for solving his/her problems in a way that does not make a problem for others.
• Children are offered choices with limits. Give choices before resistance, not after. Give your child 10 seconds to decide, then decide for him/her. Never give a choice, unless you’re willing to allow the child to live with the consequences of his/her bad choice.
• Adults use enforceable statements. Examples: “Feel free to pick up the toys you want to keep. I will be donating the ones I pick up.” “I’ll listen to you as soon as your voice is as calm as mine.”
• Adults provide delayed/extended consequences. Delaying of the consequences gives you time to think, clear your head, and consult with others. It sounds something like this: “Oh no. This is so sad. I’m going to have to do something about this! But not now… later. Try not to worry about it.” And of course, you need to have an appropriate consequence later.
3. “No” is the most dreaded word. Thinking words are a way of saying “no” by saying “Yes” to something else. Instead of “No,” you can try:
• “Sure, feel free to go swimming as soon as you finish walking the dog.”
• “Great idea! But first, we need to put the laundry away.”
• “Absolutely! Right after you finish your homework.”
• And my favorite…. “You can eat what is served or wait and see if the next meal appeals to you more.”
Don’t hesitate to pick up a copy of Parenting with Love and Logic. You won’t be disappointed!
Terri Davis, Principal
Clothes & Coat Drive for our sister school John Marshall Elementary. April 21-25
We are collecting gently used or new jackets, sweaters, hoodies, ski jackets, coats, sweatshirts, or really any clothes in good condition. We will be collecting items until Friday, April 25.
Please bring all items to the office or send in a bag with your child. I know this will make a difference in a child’s life and that is what PTA is all about
Introducing…Lil’ Cougar Kitchen!
Baked Oatmeal Cupcakes To Go
5- cups rolled oats (400g)
2 1/2 cups over-ripe mashed banana measured after
1- tsp salt
5- NuNaturals stevia packets (or use liquid sweetener of choice–such as pure maple syrup or agave–instead)
Optional: 2/3 cup mini chocolate chips
2 2/3- cups water. (If using the liquid-sweetener option, scale water back by 1/3 cup.)
¼- cup plus 1 tbsp oil (coconut oil is great, but veg oil will also work.
2 ½- tsp pure vanilla extract
Optional add-ins: cinnamon, shredded coconut, chopped walnuts, ground flax or wheat germ, raisins or other dried fruit.
Preheat oven to 380 F, and line 24-25 cupcake tins. In a large mixing bowl, combine all dry ingredients and stir very well. In a separate bowl, combine and stir all wet ingredients (including banana). Mix wet into dry, then pour into the cupcake liners and bake 21 minutes. You can also broil for 1-2 minutes. (If you let them cool overnight, they’ll no longer stick to the liners.) These oatmeal cakes can be eaten right away, or they can be frozen and reheated for an instant breakfast on a busy day.
Pair with fresh cut fruit, nut butter etc. for quick, delicious, on the go breakfast or snack
From the SBFL
Annual Fun’Raiser – Sign up by April 25th!
Don’t forget to sign up for the annual Fun’Raiser! The teachers have planned experiences that will transport the students to another world—under the sea with Nemo, the winter wonderland from “Frozen,” and more!
First- and second-graders are having their Fun’Raising fun on Friday, April 25, so make sure to sign up by then! And act soon to get those coveted front-row seats at next year’s spring performance.
If you have any questions, please ask your teacher or email us at email@example.com.
Solana Beach Foundation for Learning, Carmel Creek.